My primary area of self-exploration over the past 22 years has been with the union of opposites, frequently referred to as the Sacred Marriage. It's been an exploration fueled by the Lover archetype's longing to understand the mysteries, a persistent desire to discover the truth. The interesting thing about the Lover archetype is that its primary characteristic is its inherent longing that leads the way to continually search. The only problem is that it can lead us to many things trying to satisfy our longing. Food, relationships, chocolate, money, alcohol, other substances, or the next new technological device can lead us astray, momentarily satisfying our endless quest to fulfill our longing.
But this longing, this craving, if followed to the end, will lead us to self-realization and home to the source. If we're willing to continually excavate our longing, it will lead us to the sacred.
This journey for me has been a continual quest that has led me through the dark night of the soul out into the light again, through facing my fears to questioning my worthiness over and over again, and then back to the inherent trust I have that union with the Divine is everyone's greatest longing whether we know it or not. There are many reasons why we may not believe this is possible, but I find the main reason is our inherent belief that we're not worthy enough and that somehow this ultimate union is only for the mystics or the chosen ones. So we quickly disqualify ourselves, abandoning our own lover archetype, looking for lesser ways to fulfill whatever longing we may have left. I know this, because I've disqualified myself over and over again, only to return to the quest with even greater determination and dedication. I've had my moments of being in the presence of the Divine and even after such an awe filled experience, having my longing fulfilled, plunging into darkness once again left me questioning my worth still more. But each time my questioning has made me stronger, deepening my longing and dedication. So here is my message to you. You are worth it. With every challenge and struggle you face, turn to yourself, lean in to YOU and love yourself. It's the only way to traverse this road to the Sacred.